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“Vulnerability … as an aspect of strength” is a contradiction that lies at the heart of how to engage with crises in masculinity.

I hope we will all heed Orbach’s call to join women, along with others from diverse and marginalised backgrounds, to create a more humane and equitable society.Īuthor, Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Power of Friendship

It can’t be overstated how important it is for men to embrace these changes now, for our own wellbeing and for the future of our children and our planet. In our research, we discovered that close male friendships enhance men’s health, their partner relationships, their parenting and their work performance. They offer proof that men can change.In our organisation, the Men’s Center for Growth and Change, we call on men to open their hearts, expand their emotional skills and teach these to their sons and daughters. Perhaps most amazingly, Good Men perceive the value of a feminist practice for themselves, and they advocate it not because it’s politically correct, or because they want women to like them, or even because they want women to have equality, but because they understand that male privilege prevents them not only from becoming whole, authentic human beings but also from knowing the truth about the world…. They intervene in other men’s misogynist behavior, even when women are not present, and they work hard to recognize and challenge their own. They practice enduring uncertainty while waiting for a new way of being to reveal previously unconsidered alternatives to controlling and abusive behavior. When they err-and they do err-they look to women for guidance, and receive criticism with gratitude. They avoid using women for vicarious emotional expression…. “For both men and women, Good Men can be somewhat disturbing to be around because they usually do not act in ways associated with typical men they listen more than they talk they self-reflect on their behavior and motives, they actively educate themselves about women’s reality by seeking out women’s culture and listening to women….